Self-Improvement

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(Haven’t posted here since February?!?)

I’m sorry.

I’ve been on a self-improvement kick lately, reading self-help blogs and purchasing a few books on everything from career to life in general. It’s an exciting time for me!

One of the biggest hurdles in my life is my inability to handle stress, and be anxious and worried (I talked about this once or twice on the blog). My therapist has helped me compile a list of ways to handle these, and I coupled that with the book Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking. I highly recommend it to anyone who is a worrier like me, and/or has anxiety. Whenever I feel anxious, I pick up the book, flip to one of the many tags I placed on its pages, and try a strategy. Examples are meditation, deep breathing, and distracting yourself.

I’ve also been reading the blog zen habits.

What are some self-help books/blogs that you recommend? And have you put any of the teachings into practice? Did you notice a difference in your life?

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Reasons He Hasn’t Texted Back

I’m not an expert on the male species, but these are just the MANY reasons why a guy wouldn’t reply to a girl’s text.

  • He’s busy
  • He’s deliberately stalling, with the motivation to make you feel as anxious a wreck as possible. He might wait an entire 24-hours to respond to your “hey, what’s up?” because he has a plan. And it usually works…until he responds, and the urge to talk to him fades.
  • Maybe the text needed no response? Possible.
  • He kept his phone on silent
  • He deleted your number, so you’re now “unknown person” and he doesn’t answer texts from strangers.
  • Seeing your name appear on his screen made him so excited that he died from happiness.
  • He doesn’t know what to say
  • You disgust him
  • He’s. Moved. On. (The worst reason on this list)

Positive Feedback

I’ll tell friends good news when it happens, but I won’t go on and on about it. I’m not the bragging type, and take compliments with a bashful smile and “thank you.”

However, on the inside I feel empowered. Positive feedback makes me want to keep going, and get better at the task. The ones who gave me the praise will probably want to take back their comments if I messed up, right?

So, positive feedback can be good and bad, depending on how you look at it.

Don’t mind me. I’m rambling.

Rollercoaster

Been MIA for a while! Sorry!

But, 2018 has been a bunch of highs, and a constant low is threatening to shroud all of the positive things going on. I alluded to the break up last month, when it was still fresh. Unfortunately, I widened the wound after last week and feel like I’m back at the starting line. It’s like my progress went from 10 to 1.

And while my heart is (again) hurt, sad, and angry, my mind is trying very hard to get the heart to wake up and move on. I know I can’t force it and that it will take time, but the fact that the rational part of me is popping up makes it slightly easier to let go.

One thing that’s helping me get through this is John Mayer’s music. I’m thankful that he’s had so many breakups (never mind that he was the dumper in…most of them?), and made music that I need right now.